Planning for the second baby

Hello and Assalamualaikum.

When I got married, I did not have any plan to postpone on getting pregnant. Yes, at that time I was planning to get pregnant, and I do, literally just after I got married. Hihi.

Now that it has been more than 2 years since I gave birth to Aishah, there is at one time I do miss the feeling of being pregnant. Memangla beranak tu satu pengalaman yang mentraumakan, tapi trauma yang happy ending.

I will be 31 this year and I think it is might a good time for me to expand our little family. 

Things that I need to consider before planning for baby number 2 (source from What to Expect)

Back-to-back babies. Caring for a baby or toddler while pregnant can be physically draining, and it won't get any easier once your newborn arrives and you have two to feed, and clean, and rock, and diaper. With two under two, you may not get a good night's rest for a few years straight. Especially if you breastfeed, you may feel as though your body is on permanent loan to the two tiny tots, and wonder if you'll ever get it back (and in what condition!). If your first was born by C-section less than 18 months before your second arrives, it may be difficult (or dangerous) for you to deliver vaginally. Finally, you'll probably need to invest in some extra baby gear, like a second crib and a double stroller. But the double-whammy does have its benefits: less jealousy for your firstborn, and the chance to overlap your diapering, carrying, bathing, spoon-feeding, babyproofing days (the better to get ''em over with!). As your kids grow, they may be great playmates since they are so close in age, and they'll be into similar activities. If you are an older mom or have any concerns about your fertility, jumping right back into trying-to-conceive might be wise. 

Classic combo. When your second arrives two to three years after your first, you'll face a tougher transition for your big kid, with more rivalry, jealousy, regression, and defiance. You may get little to no break on the diaper duty, if your older one toilet-learns trains just as your new baby arrives. Balancing your firstborn's activities with your baby's needs can be tough (what to do when big sister wants to go to the playground, but the baby needs to nurse? Or when preschool pickup conflicts with little brother's nap?). Still, there's a lots to recommend this setup. Your body has time to recover from one pregnancy to the next. You get to enjoy each child's babyhood individually. And practically speaking, you can probably get away with only one crib! 

Giant gap. Maybe a space of four, or five, or more years between sibs feels right for your family. Re-entering the baby zone can be tough after you've been out of it for a long time (you've gotten used to sleeping through the night again, for example — at least most of the time!). And you face a juggling act when trying to accommodate the very different needs of kids at such divergent stages (they're not likely to play together, enjoy the same toys or movies, or want to do the same things on weekends). But your firstborn can be a big help with the baby, and they'll develop a relationship all their own — your little one will have a very special role model. With your kids in different stages, you'll be able to enjoy each one more as an individual — almost like having two only children.